By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives. Media I'm Ok, You're Ok. Save Not today. Format ebook. I walk the last few meters to the office. I see a man coming out of a shop and walking down the same street as I ten meters in front of me.
I will never speak to him. He happens to be there. The situation is completely meaningless. If it wasn't for the life script. Let's rewind for a few seconds. When I first see the man as he leaves the store, the thought comes to me: "I'm cooler than him! He is not even conspicuously dressed. I realize that I have just made a first judgement about a person. And not a good one. Transactional Analysis knows these so-called ok-positions:. Every person has a basic or default disposition of these four orientations.
It is shaped very early in life. You can already imagine which one is mine: I'm ok. You're not ok. In the situation described above, this disposition apparently has no effect. It seems so. However, it does have one. Namely, it gave me permission to feel cool and superior.
These aren't good conditions to interact in unison and harmony with your environment. Imagine I hadn't realized what I was doing.
Maybe I would have entered the office in an arrogant manner. Others could have perceived me as arrogant. Too right. Someone with a "I'm not ok, you're ok" disposition might have thought, "Wow, he's a lot cooler than me," and might have given himself a reason to feel bad.
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